Sometimes, I wonder whether our self worth or respect comes from external factors? Be it be materialistic or people. The way we treat us, does it depend on how others treat us?
The incessant acknowledgement from somebody lifts our spirit or vice versa. But why is it so?
“The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.”
Why are we inclined more towards how others treat us? Why do we accept other people’s limited perceptions to define us?
Everyday instances where people are treated very badly. They get abused both verbally and physically. They are not given the freedom. They are not given the respect. The constant source telling them what’s right and wrong. Dictating how they should/shouldn’t live their life. But the most infuriating thing is that they are okay with it! Even if they are not, they are scared to stand up for themselves. Scared that they will be left alone and being alone is scary.
How to treat yourself better?
Everything worth having costs something, and the price of true love is self-knowledge. Becoming acquainted with yourself is a price well worth paying for the love that will really address your needs.
– Daphne Rose Kingma
A phase where we stopped loving ourselves feeling unworthy because the person we love makes us feel unworthy. “Stop doing this to yourself!” was a desperate cry from our depth of our lives.
We begin treating our self better only when we start loving our self more!
Spending alone time with self and re-discovering who you are without any external factors influencing is the first step.
Ask yourself the questions and find out the answers:
- Who I am?
- What kind of a person I am?
- What do I love?
- What do I hate?
- Who is my mentor?
- What is my life philosophy?
- What kind of music I like?
- Do I like to dance?
Unearth who you are by self reflection.
Constant fight against your weakness
My mentor, Dr. Daisaku Ikeda often says, “The struggle of life is, and always will be, a struggle against your own weaknesses. Will you become cowardly and think, “I can’t do this. I’m certain to fail”? Or will you challenge the difficulties that lie ahead with the conviction, “I am strong. And I can become stronger still”? Your destiny in life will vary greatly depending on the spirit that you maintain.”
The spirit to transform your life begins with the struggle within your own inner darkness. With lot of confidence, self- control and constant re-determination, we can change ourselves for the better.
When we start loving and treating us better, your environment will also do the same because it’s the reflection of who we are.